by Neil Rasbury
Lately, people have asked me how my winter break was. I usually tell them it was fine. “Being fine,” however, does not necessarily mean I enjoyed the time back home.
Originally, when we left Rider on Dec. 22, I was happy that I was going home to spend the holidays with my family. However, when I finally got home I only then realized what I had left behind. My parents still expected me to do my chores, like clean the bathroom, which I haven’t used in the past few months, and walk/feed the dog that I also haven’t seen since September.
The major concern my parents had when I was back home was my sleeping habits. During the first semester, it was normal for me to stay up until 5 a.m. to write papers or study, and then wake up around 10:30 a.m. for my world history class. Over break, I had nothing to do but work on the weekends. But my parents had a problem with me sleeping until 11 a.m., or, if I was lucky, 12:30 p.m. Also, I was supposed to hang out with my friends who I hadn’t seen in a while, but unfortunately that didn’t happen much. So like any other teenager without a car, I was bored and had nothing to do other than go on Facebook or play video games on the new PS3 my parents brought for Christmas.
While on break I kept thinking about the good times I had at Rider, how my friends and I hang out in B lounge, eating Domino’s pizza, or just relaxing with a movie. I also thought about Vibes practice, and all the fun times we had singing and acting crazy. I missed that part of a college experience. I wished I could be back in my dorm room where my things were organized in the way I wanted them to be.
So now that I’m back, it feels like I’m back at “home.” However, this semester things have changed. One of my friends recently became an RA so I don’t see him as much anymore. In fact, none of my group hangs out like we used to. So, I’m focusing more on myself as compared to what they are doing. I also want to focus more on my studies this semester. I want to get on a daily schedule and become more organized. I also pledged to go to the gym, however I already know I’m not going to commit to that. I guess I want to prove to myself that this semester I can do more with my time and be more proactive.
So even through my days at home were kind of a bore, it made me appreciate the independence that I had at Rider. It made me realize that you should be careful who you call friends and strive to do better and truly appreciate being back on campus.